Qualities for a Godly Man.

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I knew the number one thing I wasn’t going to compromise, was for him to be a godly man.

Before I got into a relationship with anyone, I made a list. If you are like me, who lives by them, I made one for my future husband. My list consisted of about 100 different qualities, things I wanted in him. I’m sure some things on my list were a bit unrealistic, but I knew what I wanted. 😅I knew the number one thing I wasn’t going to compromise was for him to be a godly man. I would get often, so you would truly turn someone down even if they were a great person because they believed in something different than you? The answer was yes. I knew that I needed someone who was going to lead me closer to God. Someone who was equally yoked spiritually. This isn’t to say that relationships can’t work with different  background & religions, I just knew for myself personally, that was a non negotiable. 


My list served as a way to hold myself accountable but also to remind myself the importance of looking just beyond the infatuation & appearance that came with being in a new relationship. So here’s a list of things to look for in a relationship: — His/her character matches how they treat you & those around you. What kind of fruit are they bearing? Any red flags? —Chemistry is also important. Looks aren’t everything, but you want to have some attraction to that individual. There has to be some form of spark that will surpass the “honeymoon” stage in a relationship. —Morals/Core values. Does he/she values line up with yours? So many differences are added to the relationship, so it’s important to talk through them & see what you’re willing to work through together. 


Is he/she willing to be committed to your relationship? Are they ready to invest time, energy, love into what is being created. A love that is deeper than the eye can see or is it just for fun? 
Can he/she communicate effectively? This is huge in any relationship. No one is a mind reader. Can this person share what is on their heart? Talk through their emotions? Discuss their goals, dreams, ambitions? 
So much more than be added to this list, but I don’t have enough space left to write. Feel free to share what’s on your list. What do you look for in a person? 

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