When I finally got to a point in my life where I was no longer seeking validation from any man who tried to show me any bit of attention, I felt safe enough to start dating again.

“We repeat what we don’t repair.”—I knew that when I got into my next relationship, I was going to have really allow God to heal wounds that were caused from my past. I knew without a doubt, I didn’t want to end up in a dysfunctional relationship. I prayed that I would receive someone who would break generational curses with me. 

Although I had a lot of things to work on within myself, I promised myself that my next relationship was going to be my last. I was intentional with keeping my values/standards at the forefront of every conversation when it came to someone who was trying to pursue me. If they didn’t align with my values, I had to say peace. 
I really had to be healed & delivered from emotional wounds & unmet needs that I tried filling with people, knowing that they weren’t able to make me feel loved the way I needed. I had to learn how to be alone after my first heartbreak & embrace this new season of discovering who I was as a woman & what I was longing from my own else. 

When I finally got to a  point in my life where I was no longer seeking validation from any man who tried to show me any bit of attention, I felt safe enough to start dating again. At this point, I knew what I wanted, I prayed for what I wanted, & I got exactly that. I didn’t have to compromise myself for no relationship. 
As you are beginning to enter into a godly relationship, or already in a relationship ask yourself these questions: 

1.What am I gaining from this relationship? Is it bringing me up or tearing me down? 
2.Am I okay with being alone and not needing anyone to fill empty voids? 
3.Does this person bring me closer to God or push me farther away? 
4.Have I truly healed from past wounds? Childhood trauma? Dysfunctional relationships? 
5.Do I feel safe enough to open my heart up again?