Preparing for marriage.

So many lessons learned that marriage books can’t really teach, just experiences.

Right out of college, we had no money. I was just starting a new job, moved to a new state, & Anthony was still finishing up his last semester playing ball, his internship, & starting his masters program. Our plates were full. Yet somehow in the midst of everything, Anthony found time to ask me to spend forever with him. I mean I was over the moon excited. We prayed long & hard for this moment.

I was ready to start planning even though I had to do it all long distance & over the phone. I worked three jobs, exhausting myself because I felt the pressure to have this elaborate wedding, trying to impress others. I wanted everything to be perfect because unrealistic expectations. If I could do it all over, I would tell anyone this—prepare for your marriage, not just your wedding day. The day will pass by with a blink of an eye, but a marriage is a lifetime of commitment. It requires planning your future, having a strong foundation built on God, asking tough questions, seeking wise counsel. Vows aren’t just words that sound nice to say to one another, but it’s truth & sometimes it’s ugly. For better or for worse, sickness & in health.

Marriage is about putting those words into action. Although a wedding day is beyond special, I’ve learned that after the day is over, true work really begins. That’s when it’s no longer about ourselves. But fighting for each other when times get hard, when disappointments strike our household, when it’s hard to love one another after being hurt. So many lessons learned that marriage books can’t really teach, just experiences. So as you prepare for a wedding, take time to prepare for marriage that will last a lifetime, not just a day of celebration.