Dealing with trust issues.

Trust comes with trusting someone with your heart. Believing that their motives are pure, intentions are genuine.

I had trust issues. Hated getting hurt. I didn’t want that to happen to me growing up so instead I shut down & put up walls to protect myself. I had to really learn & unlearn some things to truly heal & fully be loved properly. When my best friend, now husband, & I friendship began blossoming back during our college days, growth allowed me to embrace the security I felt when I was with him. He never gave me one doubt of distrust. He was the most loyal person I’ve ever met. Yet, why did I still seem to struggle with it? 

Maybe it was the buried pain I needed uprooted. The movies & tv shows I allowed to pollute my head & fill me with doubts. The relationships around me that ended due to infidelity or cheating. I tried so hard not to project it into my relationship. I didn’t want a relationship where trust was non existent. Those relationships tended to crumble through hard times. 

So what did I do to keep these thoughts from affecting my relationship? Prayed a lot. Protected what I was allowing to influence my thinking. Reassure myself how safe I feel & that I have no doubts in the strength of our relationship. You see trust is more than just sexually. Trust comes with trusting someone with your heart. Believing that their motives are pure, intentions are genuine. It’s knowing that through disagreements & tough seasons, you trust that they won’t abandon you, but fight along side you through whatever it may be. You conquer it together. 

Whatever is causing you to lack trust, instead of assuming the worst, sit down with your significant other & share your fears & then kill those thoughts. You can’t go into a relationship believing they will hurt you like your last. Cause pain that will damage you. Instill fear in you that they will be unfaithful. Whatever is causing you to hurt, please don’t project it onto your next or current relationship. Create a foundation based on trust & protect it at ALL costs. You deserve it.💛