Rekindling the fire.
Though seasons change, I’m reminded that the flame that burned in the beginning, can burn just as bright.
In the beginning of every relationship, infatuation settles in. The butterflies, long lasting phone calls, dates just to be near & in each other’s presence. The late night talks about the future, getting to know one another. The very things that created a spark which turn into flames.
I remember those days so vividly. Sophomore year of college when Anthony & I became friends. We had the same circle of friends so we started seeing each other more often around campus. Wasn’t love at first sight. Just two people who wanted to get to know each other on a deeper level. Seven years later & I still get excited when I’m learning new things about him.
I don’t ever want to become so comfortable that I stop connecting with him. This is one of the very things I try my hardest at being intentional with. Though seasons change, I’m reminded that the flame that burned in the beginning, can burn just as bright. It doesn’t have to be dimmed because we’ve been together for awhile. —
Reconnecting & keeping the flame alive doesn’t have to result in huge changes. Will it always be easy? NO. But is it necessary to continue engaging with your significant other & putting in the work to sustain that fire? YES. Just getting back to the basics where it all started can restore what you once thought was dead.
Asking questions. Learning new things about each other. Creating memories by planning dates, even if it’s just at home. Praying for each other. Listening before assuming. Not pointing out every flaw but celebrate their strengths. Forgiving often. Being present & intentional with the time you have together. Respecting each other’s boundaries. It’s the little things that spark something within your relationship bringing back the flames. In what ways can you be more intentional & bring life back into your relationship?