Resolving Disagreements.

Bringing up old things from the past to hurt the other, isn’t necessary to resolve your pain. It just causes even deeper wounds.

One day we were having a disagreement & I felt with every fiber of my body I was right. Like I just couldn’t be wrong. (The nerve) I just knew I had the answers, even though I later discovered I wasn’t. Talk about a true humbling experience. Not only did I have to apologize, but I had to stop with the assumptions & accusations when I didn’t even take the time to listen.

Funny how we have the ability to make up a whole scenario in our head without having all the facts. (GUILTY) When having a disagreement, I learned a few things over these few years of marriage:

1. Forgive each other daily even when pride wants to take its place.

2. Bitterness has a way of causing division & creating resentment, don’t let it get there.

3. Bringing up old things from the past to hurt the other, isn’t necessary to resolve your pain. It just causes even deeper wounds.

4. Keeping tabs of each other’s wrongs will not help a relationship grow, but diminish its intimacy.

5. It’s completely okay to be vulnerable & honest when sharing feelings. Let the walls come down. Your spouse goal isn’t to hurt you, but to understand you.

6. Your martial problems aren’t to be shared with others as a way to bash one another. Regardless he’s your other half. You still represent each other.

7. Loving someone at all times can be hard, but it’s not an excuse to pick & choose when you do so. In the midst of our disagreements love is still shown.

8. Grace must be extended. What are a few things you’ve learned when it comes to having disagreements?